Posted: November 20, 2023
For many families, the holidays are about spending quality time with loved ones. But the holidays can be challenging for people with a disability or dementia and those who care for them. With a few helpful holiday tips for caregivers, we hope this season can be less stressful and more enjoyable.
It’s important that you update family and friends about your loved one’s condition. This is especially important if changes in appearance or behaviors and increased memory loss have become more apparent. Be honest. The purpose is to maintain your loved one’s dignity, avoid embarrassment, and create a calm and comfortable environment.
Recognizing agitation, stress and discomfort and responding early can help put your loved one at ease. Signs include withdrawal and seeking isolation, repetition in behaviors and speech, pacing and outbursts. If your person is self-isolating, allow them that time. Avoid continued coaxing, as this may lead to agitation.
Here are some tips to avoid overwhelming your loved one this holiday season:
Prioritizing your own self-care is an incredibly important part of being a caregiver. When your physical, mental and emotional well-being are tended to, you are in a better position to be able to provide care for your loved one. Taking time to de-stress and reenergize is beneficial for everyone.
Here are a few ways you can take care of yourself and avoid burnout this holiday season:
Caregivers wear many hats and must be skillful in numerous areas. Being responsible for the health and safety of another adult is no easy feat. Caregivers may be called upon to do things that they have never been responsible for, such as paying bills, tracking medications, or providing personal care, including bathing, toileting and oral hygiene.
Planning and executing activities for an adult is a full-time job. There is a delicate balance in structuring activities to meet the person where they are. You don’t want to set them up for failure by giving them something that is beyond their ability, but you also don’t want to take away their dignity with childlike games. When dementia is involved, caregivers must be able to move, think, and act quickly in their support of the person with dementia.
Caring for a person with dementia can be very stressful. Caregivers will need help at some point, but where can they turn for that support?
Cappella of Grand Junction hosts Memory Café, a wonderfully welcoming place for individuals with Alzheimer’s and other types of dementia or brain disorders and their caregivers. In this safe and comfortable space, caregivers and their loved ones can socialize, enjoy good food, listen to music, play games and take a break from the normal routine. For more information on either of our community support programs, please contact us at 970.822.7070.
In a recent discussion about surviving and thriving as a caregiver, Christian Living Communities President & CEO Jill Vitale-Aussem spoke with Mary Daniel, nationally known caregiver advocate, speaker, and founder of Caregivers for Compromise Facebook Group, and Cameron Crawford, owner of Next Steps Senior Placement and founder of the Aging Parent Tribe Facebook Group, about the importance of taking care of and being compassionate with oneself on the caregiving journey.